Woman Reporting Male Boss to HR Over 'Hyper Sexualized' Nickname Applauded

2022-09-23 19:37:02 By : Mr. cai lei

A woman who reported her boss to HR over a nickname is being supported online.

Posting to Reddit's Am I the A******? (AITA) forum on September 23, user u/NotJezzFRabbit explained she's complained to human resources after accidentally discovering her new boss's "sexy" nickname for her.

A natural redhead, the boss had labeled her in his phone as "Jessica Rabbit," after the animated sex symbol from 1988 movie Who Framed Roger Rabbit?

After speaking to HR, her boss and colleagues have been avoiding her, leading the poster to question her decision. However, fellow Redditors are urging her to sue for sexual harassment.

Between 2018 and 2021, there were 27,291 sexual harassment claims reported to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, which is 27.7 percent of all harassment cases.

The number of reported cases rose in the wake of the #Metoo movement in 2017, with 13.6 percent more incidents recorded in 2018 than the year prior. However, claims dropped in 2020 and 2021 due to COVID-19 restrictions keeping people out of the workplace.

Seventy-eight percent of the sexual harassment charges filed were by women, with 43.5 percent submitted with a retaliation charge; 8,147 victims received a payout from resolved sexual harassment cases, totaling $299.8 million.

Best known for her long red hair and ample chest, the fact that she was animated didn't stop Jessica Rabbit from becoming a pin-up. Voiced by Kathleen Turner in the original, the character will be returning for the sequel, which is currently in development. Married to the titular character, Jessica was modeled on 1940s A-list Hollywood stars, including Laura Bacall, Rita Hayworth and Veronica Lake.

Directed by Robert Zemeckis, the movie was based on the 1981 crime-comedy novel Who Censored Roger Rabbit? by Gary K. Wolf. Set in 1940s Hollywood, the film follows detective Eddie Valiant (Bob Hoskins) as he tries to prove his client, Roger Rabbit—a celebrity cartoon character—is innocent of murder.

Despite poor audience response in test screenings, the movie was a critical and box office success for Disney, grossing $329,803,908 worldwide. Successfully combining live action and animation, the film won numerous awards—including four Oscars—and was selected for preservation in the National Film Registry in 2016 for its "cultural, historic or aesthetic importance."

In her post, u/NotJezzFRabbit explained she'd recently started a new job in an office with five men. She said her new boss is "overconfident" and makes inappropriate comments, even when discussing work topics.

"The boss is one of those guys who think has a natural charm that ladies would instantly fall for, but he looks like a thumb," she wrote.

"I keep him at arm's length, and I'm very professional with my workmates."

It was a conversation with a co-worker that led to her discovering the nickname. After the man didn't send a document on time, she chased him up and asked him to email it to her there and then. When he opened his phone, she noticed her number was labeled "Jessica Rabbit" in his contacts.

She wrote: "I asked him about it, confused, and looked at me, shocked, eyes wide open. Just said 'Im sorry.'

"I didn't let him go, and interrogated him until he confessed that the boss always calls me 'Jessica Rabbit.'

"I'm naturally a red head, got it from mom, and dye my hard red when it gets darker, but I don't look like 'Jessica Rabbit.'

"I'm flat as a table, yes, I had trust issues about it, and worked very hard to like my body. I despise the thought of being compared to a hyper sexualized cartoon character."

She confronted her boss about the nickname, who said it was meant as a "compliment."

"He just said 'Because you both are sexy redheads,'" she wrote.

"I told him to stop it, because I don't feel safe, he just said 'why are you so angry? Its a compliment.' I said its not and stormed out."

The poster decided to make a formal complaint about her boss, only to find the HR person was unsupportive.

"[She] said that she'll process the complaint, but that it was worthless, because 'Boss is just like that,'" the poster explained.

"I told her that I dont like my boss' attitude, and need a warrant to stop."

Since the incident, her boss has stopped talking to her, and her colleagues have kept their distance.

"My workmates say that I'm way too dramatic, and dont know how to take a compliment," she said.

"They also complained that they don't feel safe around me, because they dont know if I will twist their words somehow."

Redditors agreed the poster was "not the a******," with the post receiving 11,500 likes and 1,300 comments.

"That's just downright disgusting," said Summerbals.

"Comparing your coworker to an overly sexualized cartoon is not a compliment," wrote Own-Drama5422. "Don't you love how these types of men think any form of sexual comment is a compliment?"

"It's not just a nickname," agreed lyan-cat. "It's the boss labelling you in such a way as to prevent you from being anything but sexualized.

"It doesn't matter how good you are at your job now, your coworkers have a specific view of you and it's not professional."

Many users said they believed the poster had enough evidence for a lawsuit, encouraging her to sue.

"This is sexual harassment," commented 0eozoe0. "This company needs to be reported if HR tolerates this kind of behavior from their management."

"Start keeping records of hostile interactions at work, and especially complaints you made to HR," advised rhomboidus.

BradWTodd said: "Your boss and coworkers are making your work environment hostile through retaliation.

"You talked to HR, now talk to a lawyer."

Newsweek has reached out to u/NotJezzFRabbit for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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